“The talking stage” is a label apparently coined by Gen Z'ers to describe a maddening, un-defined early stage of many relationships. “The talking stage is kind of like the test run of a situationship,” says Nandini, a 20-year-old college student in Austin.
Most talking stages last several weeks to 2 months. The talking stage is when you're getting to know someone and aren't exclusive or in a relationship yet. To get out of the talking stage, ask your crush to hang out in person, open up about your past and beliefs, and tell them how you feel.
Today's young people have a newer label: the “talking stage”. It happens between being introduced to someone and officially dating, and it can involve talking or texting for days – even months. The purpose of this stage is to have the opportunity to get to know someone before committing to a relationship with them.
“Talking” is when your child is flirting with someone, but there's no date yet. From my own experience, actual dates are an older practice now a days, and in most circumstances someone will be in a relationship before their first date.
Flirting is a positive sign that the talking stage is going well. Flirtatious banter, whether it's in person or over text messages, is a sign that the two of you are comfortable with each other and feel attracted to one another. It's an indicator that the talking stage might be heading towards officially dating.
If you've recently connected with a girl you like and gotten her number, take it slow with your texting—and let her take the lead on how often you talk. Answer her messages, but don't send several if she doesn't answer yours. Be patient; people get busy, and she doesn't know you yet.
78 percent of Gen Z surveyed said they prioritise respect in partners, with 79 percent prizing loyalty as an important quality and 61 percent valuing open-mindedness. Meanwhile, 56 percent prioritised physical appearance.
Gen Z daters want to find someone who matches them in socioeconomic status, education level, and career goals—someone like them but better. As Fiester explains, “If she's pretty, that helps him.
Situationship
A "situationship" describes an ambiguous romantic relationship where both people have feelings for each other but don't want (or see a need) to have it clearly defined. Situationships are frequently characterized by "dating, but not really".
The talking stage isn't just talking. During the talking stage, you might go to dinner with the person you're talking to. You might go home with them, have full sex, sleep over, develop an emotional connection with their dog, and depart with a gentle forehead kiss.
If you've heard of the 'talking stage' but you're not sure what it is, you've come to the right place. The talking stage is the period of time when you're getting to know someone and figuring out if you want to date. Essentially, it's that pre-dating phase where you are working out if it could be more than friends.
The 3-month rule is a 90-day trial period where a couple “tests out” a relationship to see if they're compatible. During the 90 days, couples learn about each other's likes, dislikes, and possible red flags. At the end of the 3 months, couples discuss if they want to pursue a long-term relationship.
Psychologists say you should wait at least two months until you ask the other person to be exclusive with you. You might decide to commit to each other sooner than that, but generally speaking, eight weeks is a good timeline. Keep in mind that this depends on how often you talk to your crush.
Why three weeks? “You need about a week to let your body and mind adjust to not being around someone that you've been in a relationship with,” says Farrell. “Then another week to sort out or identify your feelings or thoughts. And then you might need another week to actually figure out your plan.”
An overview of Millennial and Gen Z dating statistics
They value freedom and independence. 75% of Gen Z are single. 44% of millennials are married.
"Gen Z is driven by purpose and world change. An impressive 65% want to personally create something world-changing." Interestingly, Gen Z are also more likely to see themselves as entrepreneurs, than leaders.
They're avid gamers. If there's one thing this generation loves to do, it's game. It's a hugely popular pastime for this group, particularly gaming on smartphones. Almost 9 in 10 Gen Z game on any device.
Gen Zs are growing up and coming of age in a time of heightened stress and anxiety. From violence and terrorism to a global pandemic, Zoomers have dealt with significant issues in a relatively short period of time.
“We're seeing this moment where people are opting to be single,” Rodney said. “There's this intentionality and this deliberateness of people choosing that for themselves.” Which may explain some of Gen Z's preference to date like a solitary feline rather than prowling around for mates.
Most folks need 5-6 dates to make it official.
Every couple is different, but if you've gone on 3-4 dates and you're worried that you aren't official yet, don't worry. Most couples go on 5-6 dates before they start discussing a relationship, and some take even longer. Don't sweat it if you're a few dates in.