The psychology of
Because, when you block someone, you're basically saying, in a virtual way, “I'm done with you.” It's the ultimate diss. You feel defeated, you're annoyed because they had the last word and have no way of having your say. It's frustrating and annoying, and for some people, it causes an even bigger problem to arise.
Blocking someone after the end of your relationship does NOT mean that you hate them, don't care or don't love them. It just means that you care about YOURSELF more.
Blocking isn't just a mental health break. Use the option after lecturing someone and giving them no chance to respond and it's a manipulative move. It's something narcissists often do online to control a narrative.
Usually, when a person blocks you, they don't want to speak or interact with you. While this is the typical implication of getting blocked, he might have used the block button to get your attention. Sometimes, getting suddenly blocked could be a desperate move for him.
This is part of the devaluation stage of narcissistic abuse. The narcissist wants to make you feel less of a person. There are many ways the narcissist can devalue, but one is through this control of blocking you and the silent treatment that comes with it.
It's an example of no longer wanting to interact with that person. You are more than welcome to call it immaturity if you wish.
First and foremost, a guy will feel hurt when he realizes you blocked him. Blocking someone or even unfriending them on social media is an act of active rejection. And being rejected HURTS. When a person he cares about is the one rejecting him, it will hurt him even more.
"Breakups can be traumatic for both partners, no matter who ended it. It helps to not have constant reminders of your ex, and one of the best ways to do that is to block them." So, if moving on as quickly as possible is your main objective, then removing them from your feed could certainly help you accomplish that.
Silent treatment is mostly in your presence. While they will not block you, they may refrain from or delay responding. Your desperate calls, texts, emails are great food for them. By blocking you, they would be depriving themselves of high quality narcissistic supply.
They make you feel insecure
There is even less reason to feel guilty about blocking someone you don't know. Even if you do know them, and they have no harmful intentions towards you, the sight of them could be making you feel insecure.
The blocked party won't get a notification that they've been blocked, but if they call your landline they may hear a busy signal, or a message that their call couldn't go through or that the number is busy. Which variation of this they hear will depend on the carrier.
While anyone can be manipulated, expert manipulators tend to target people with and take advantage of certain personality traits. These traits include: The desire to be liked or to please; these people are more likely to take extraordinary measures to gain favor. Low self-esteem.
Being ignored. Blocking signals that they are upset with you and are avoiding you. But if they ignore you it just feels like it's because they just don't care. With ignoring it's like hurtful indifference or just plain being cruel on purpose.
Everyone has experienced social rejection and knows its pain. The blocker knows that they are trying to inflict emotional and psychological pain on the blockee. Even for a short period, socially excluded people experience emotional pain, regardless of their self-confidence and self-esteem.
Most narcissists will view being blocked as an act of aggression. A blocked narcissist won't have any ability to silence or control you, which is very important for them. This is highly likely to be an overwhelming and scary feeling for them.
Nothing a narcissist despises more than being rejected. They become agitated when you ignore a narcissist. Keeping everything under control when trying to reject your attention-seeking lover can thus be challenging.
Yes, they often do come back to relationships. A narcissist will repeat their cycle of abuse as long as they need you as a supply. Even their distressing discard performance will leave you in a firm belief they're done with you; a narcissist will come back.
The silent treatment might be employed by passive personality types to avoid conflict and confrontation, while strong personality types use it to punish or control. Some people may not even consciously choose it at all.
Silence speaks volumes
The best revenge is no reaction. Believe it, the silence and zero reaction really bothers your ex, and they consider it as the best served revenge. Nothing creates more curiosity than silence. Your ex would expect a vent or an angry rant from you, but don't give in.