Proper English tea etiquette involves holding the cup with your index finger and thumb on the handle (pinky tucked in!), stirring gently without clinking, sipping quietly, and never lifting the saucer when seated; for food, break scones by hand (jam/cream after) and eat small sandwiches in a few bites, remembering to dress smartly and avoid calling it "high tea".
DO'S & DON'TS of Afternoon Tea Etiquette | Baroness Bolsover
Most venues have a relaxed 'smart casual' dress code these days, so there is no need for men to wear a jacket and tie (unless otherwise specified) - trousers or smart jeans, collared shirt and clean/un-scuffed shoes are acceptable. No sportswear or trainers (sneakers).
Allegedly, it's said that the tea cups in the 19th century were wide shaped and flat the bottom, making it hard not to spill anything. The pinky helped keep the cup in balance. This caused the lifting pinky to become a trend, and because tea was only for the elite, so was that pinky finger.
Three key etiquette rules for afternoon tea are: don't stick out your pinky finger; stir gently in a back-and-forth motion (6 to 12 o'clock) and place the spoon on the saucer; and eat foods in the proper order (sandwiches first, then scones, then sweets) using your fingers for most items, but a fork for messy things like scones.
That's actually rude and connotes elitism. It comes from the fact that cultured people would eat their tea goodies with three fingers and commoners would hold the treats with all five fingers. Thus was born the misguided belief that one should raise their pinky finger to show they were cultured.
Not only was adding milk seen as a means of cooling the tea down and improving on the bitterness of the beverage, it also prevented the boiling water from cracking the porcelain mugs.
Remember How To Drink Tea Properly
Etiquette experts advise sitting with the correct posture and a napkin on your lap. After properly positioning yourself, bring the cup to your mouth—do not lean forward, slurp, or blow on hot tea. Place the cup back on its saucer between small sips, and remember, keep that pinky down.
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At Afternoon Tea, the order of consumption is sandwiches followed by scones and finally the sweet course with cakes/petits fours. Enjoy!
To serve the tea, generally the milk (due to denaturing of milk proteins when hot water is added) and sugar go in first. The person serving, which is considered an honor, serves the tea to the guests first and him or herself last.
The 3 main foods served at Afternoon Tea are finger sandwiches (no crusts and with fillings such as smoked salmon, cucumber and egg mayonnaise), cake slices or small cakes (such as Victoria sponge) and scones.
Always use freshly drawn, cold water every time you fill your kettle. The oxygen in the water is vital in producing a lively, bright brew. It's important you don't over-boil your kettle – this can change the taste of the water and the appearance of the tea.
“Never squeeze your teabags, as this can make your tea taste bitter due to the release of tannic acids,” explains Angela Pryce, senior tea buyer at Whittard. “Instead lift it out carefully after 3-5 minutes of brewing.” Our expert Dr Bond says five minutes is the optimum time to let your tea brew.
Saucers, traditionally circular and flat, are small plates designed to hold teacups. They serve a dual purpose – catching drips and providing a platform for accompanying items like teaspoons or small snacks.
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Three fingers of alcohol is an imprecise, old-fashioned measure, but generally equates to about 3 to 6 ounces (90-180 ml), often estimated as 1 to 2 ounces (30-60 ml) per finger, with variations depending on finger size, glass size, and bartender interpretation. While some try to standardize it to 1 ounce per finger, a common pour for "two fingers" is 2 ounces, making "three fingers" roughly 3 ounces, though it can easily be more.
Tea Serving: Whether the host gives you tea or add tea for you, you should use the index finger and middle finger to tap the table in front of the cup. It is called finger tapping manners to express gratitude to the host.