INFJs' Two Favorite Love Languages There are five different love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch. From what I've seen online and the INFJs I've talked with, Quality Time and Words of Affirmation are the two most popular love languages for INFJs.
They're more likely to show their affection through acts of service or verbalize their thoughts and plans. Thinking-Perceiving types (TPs) tend to feel more vulnerable and insecure sharing their feelings, because their Feeling function is just not as mature as it would typically be for an INFJ.
INFJs often love to spend time in nature, especially alone time. A walk in the park, sitting on a beach watching the waves, or hiking up in the mountains is a calming and invigorating experience for many INFJs.
They require value alignment. INFJs have a strong sense of integrity, which means they're unlikely to be compatible with someone who doesn't share their values. They will leave relationships if they believe the other person's values do not align with their own.
So, INFJs speak the love language of quality time. As the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type, INFJs are frequently misunderstood and thrive when someone finally “gets” them. Use quality time to dive deep into their inner world, making it about them, not you.
Kindness
As sensitive personalities, INFJs feel attracted to people who show kindness towards others. Extraverted Feeling is their auxiliary function, which means INFJs try to connect in a gentle way, and appreciate those who can do the same.
When I surveyed INFJs about their flirting styles, more than anything, they expressed a deep desire to connect emotionally with someone they liked. They will be more emotionally open, express more of their deeper longings, and become more vulnerable with you if they like you.
Because of our passionate need for meaningful connection, we INFJs can get jealous easily when we see other people connecting and having fun. We might compare ourselves to them, or worse yet, when someone close to us has friends of their own, we might pull away, feeling unwanted and pathetic.
She'll be interested in her partner's passions, no matter how different they are from hers. This act of selflessness can really endear others to INFJs, which is why the best match for INFJ males or females is anyone who can reciprocate the same.
True vulnerability may be challenging at first, so INFJs need partners who can be patient until trust is built in the relationship. The feelings of those closest to them, including romantic partners, are like an open book to INFJs and they tend to assume that others can see into their hearts just as easily.
I always feel awkward around them if they're not my friend. I will avoid them at all costs but at the same time wish I had actually talked to them. If we do get to talk, I'm going to be fighting a battle inside about what to say. I normally end up saying weird and random things I always regret.
Communication takes precedence – the idea being that with open and honest communication, almost any other challenge can be navigated – but other things that INFJs need to be satisfied in a relationship include respect (especially for their Ni insights), semi-regular expression of love/affirmation, willingness from ...
INFJ: Yellow, Pink, Sky Blue, Nature Green
You prefer to be a little unconventional, and you love to share your unique perspective of the world.
Leaders and curious individuals tend to be most attracted to INFJs. This is so because the INFJ exudes an aura of mystery, and they are often misunderstood, for they are the rarest personality type. As such, many ENTJs find themselves attracted to this personality type.
Yes, we do actually like affection, so don't be afraid to hug us. INFJs may look intimidating because we're not constantly grinning or bubbling with energy. We may even come across as rather serious and brooding, lost in our heads.
If an INFJ gets personal with you about their emotions and life details, it means they like you and want you to be interested in them. They will share things about their life, family, and dreams. Once they can trust you, they will even express their deep emotions about people and situations.
INFJs value deep and meaningful connections with others, and they thrive on authentic conversations. They deeply appreciate people who are genuine and sincere as well. Generally, they prefer small groups or one-on-one interactions where they can connect with others on a deeper level.
INFJs are easily overwhelmed by bright lights, strong smells, scratchy fabric or loud noise. This is not simply overreacting. For them, it feels like the volume is always turned up too high, sometimes bringing them to tears or making them avoid people.
They might get angry and defensive, scared of ever letting another person in. It's okay to feel those things, but it's not healthy to stay there long-term. The heartbreak doesn't have to define the rest of your life and your other relationships (I'm currently working on convincing myself of this).
INFJs feel insecure when they receive criticism or are faced with conflict or confrontation.
People who are willing to understand. Kind people. I might fall for some people who are insensitive and sometimes downright rude, but deep down, I love kind men.
At their best, INFJs make modest, reliable teammates, and allow others to take the lead. INFJs may undervalue their own needs, ideas, and contributions, acting overly shy and not taking credit when due. At their worst, INFJs can be excessively submissive, ineffectual, and too dependent on direction from others.
INFJs are soul-filled lovers.
For INFJs, sex is an expression of love rather than lust, and they will rarely engage in it casually. They view sex as a communion of the souls, adding to the bond between them and their mate. INFJs are passionate partners, and see sexual intimacy as a way to make their partners happy.
Their introverted nature allows them to be excellent listeners. Careers for INFJs in counseling, therapy, or psychology are good choices to consider because of this natural trait. They tend towards introversion, so career paths involving writing and research can suit this personality type particularly well.