Forgiveness is more powerful than revenge. vengeance only begets vengeance. it is a destructive cycle. But when you forgive, you inspire change in both yourself and the other.
Forgiveness Is Greater than Revenge.
Science is now confirming what the prophets have always preached: that it is better to forgive than seek revenge.
For people who wrote a letter expressing forgiveness, the researchers found that their levels of self-humanity were higher than people who wrote a revenge letter. Additionally, those who forgave reported lower inclination toward self-harm. In other words, forgiving has benefits for those of us who have been hurt.
Moral: Forgiveness is a sign of true strength and courage. It takes more courage to forgive than it does to seek revenge.
The best revenge is to learn to forgive, not to hold onto the anger inside. To forgive means to be free.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi. There are occasions when people go through injustice, get setbacks in life, get betrayed by someone they trust. Do not get the response they expect from someone – someone very close, when in need.
Silence speaks volumes
The best revenge is no reaction. Believe it, the silence and zero reaction really bothers your ex, and they consider it as the best served revenge. Nothing creates more curiosity than silence. Your ex would expect a vent or an angry rant from you, but don't give in.
Even though the first few moments feel rewarding in the brain, psychological scientists have found that instead of quenching hostility, revenge prolongs the unpleasantness of the original offense. Instead of delivering justice, revenge often creates only a cycle of retaliation.
Often the hardest person to forgive is yourself. You are so hurt, yet you realize that you are the one to blame. You are the one who did it to yourself. And so you want to make yourself hurt.
"The best revenge is living well." Act as if whatever happened that provoked your revenge affected you in no way. Put up barriers and get on with things as you always do. Even if you're stuck in a jam because of what someone has done to you, hold your head up high and don't let them see how it has hurt you.
This means that revenge actually has the capacity to trigger both positive and negative emotions (including feeling tense, uncertain and having a sense of dread). This in many senses is the dilemma of revenge. Revenge seems so appealing and so rewarding, making the brain's reward centres positively glow.
Desire and instincts toward revenge can take over, as satisfaction in the face of retribution comes to feed on itself. In this way, the goal of revenge may move beyond a means-to-an-end process, as the feeling provides enough motivation and reinforcement to generate revenge-seeking behavior.
Ultimate Revenge is a reality TV program about fulfilling the fantasy of anyone who wants to seek revenge on their nearest and dearest. Elaborate practical jokes were played on family and friends instigated by their own relatives and friends.
I believe revenge is a weakness because it's only show that you can't control or overcome your feelings. Revenge will take away your joy and everything that is good to you even if you will succeed in you vengeance, you will still remain sad and unsatisfied.
You might be thinking that it will also provide great relief from the pain that you are feeling or some sort of satisfaction. Sadly, evidence shows that people who seek revenge instead of forgiving or letting go, tend to feel worse in the long run.
If a narcissist believes that you have wronged them, they will seek revenge to punish and reestablish control over you. Narcissists need to inflict tangible damage on those they feel wronged by to feel emotionally stable because their emotional immaturity prevents them from expressing themselves any other way.
According to researchers, those high in neuroticism are also likely to seek revenge. At a glance, that seems counterintuitive because revenge is an aggressive act and these people worry and ruminate much of the time, are prone to self-criticism, and have trouble setting goals and achieving them.
"When someone persists in revenge fantasies, over time they can develop anxiety and remorse, as well as feelings of shame," says California-based psychotherapist Beverly Engel, who treats clients who have been abused and often struggle with vengeful thoughts.
Silence can be a very powerful way to “be” with another person, especially when they are troubled. It can communicate acceptance of the other person as they are as of a given moment, and particularly when they have strong feelings like sorrow, fear or anger.
With all of the constant noise you hear on a day-to-day basis, embracing silence can help stimulate your brain and help you process information. It can also help you become more self-aware and relieve stress. Embracing silence may also help you settle into the present moment and quiet any racing thoughts.
The silent treatment is a way to inflict pain without visible bruising – literally. Research has shown that the act of ignoring or excluding activates the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain.
The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest.” : The first to apologise is the bravest.
If forgiving someone guarantees that they're back in your life, and if that puts those around you (like your children or family) at risk. If that person pressures you to partake in negative behaviors, for example, drinking if you're sober. If that person doesn't respect your boundaries.
Shirk signifies associating partners with God. The Quran states that: He who associates with God has surely forged a great sin (ithm). This association with shirk is noteworthy for shirk is considered unforgivable if not repented of.