Giving compliments, using suggestive body language, maintaining eye contact, and perking up when you are around this person are all subtle signs of flirting.
Flirting or coquetry is a social and sexual behavior involving body language, or spoken or written communication. It is used to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with another person and, if done playfully, for amusement.
A flirty guy will talk about his love life, best date, romantic nights, and related topics. The reason is to allow you to have a glimpse into his romantic side. If he is friendly: A friendly guy will talk about his interests, hobbies, work, etc. They will rarely mention anything related to their love life.
Teasing is one of the biggest ways that a man can flirt with you. If he makes fun of you lightly for your clothes, for how you walk, how you laugh, or for any of the other things about you that he actually just thinks are really adorable, then he's definitely flirting with you.
Hall and his team coded 36 verbal flirting behaviors — such as making compliments, asking questions and revealing information — and nonverbal flirting behaviors —such as leg-crossing, palming, leaning forward, playing with objects and nodding.
In a research project, Jeffrey Hall, Assistant Professor of Communication Studies at the University of Kansas defined five flirting styles; playful, traditional, physical, sincere and polite.
Subtle flirting involves using discreet, understated gestures or verbal cues to signal interest and attraction without being overt or aggressive. Subtle flirting can help create intrigue and maintain a sense of mystery during the early stages of a flirtatious interaction.
“We all know someone who is friendly, easily talks to anyone, and has a way of leaving an interaction with the other person feeling extra good about themselves — this is an example of innocent flirtation,” Kotlarski indicates.
Make eye contact -- then look away
“Making eye contact and holding it just a few seconds longer than a casual glance causes him to take notice of you and start to wonder what you may have meant by that,” says Lieberman. “It's the cool 'silent flirt' that can make him want to know more.”
Tease you / try to make you laugh
Pay attention to see if he gently teases you, because this could mean he's attracted to you. Although, if he teases other girls, it might be a tactic he uses for flirting. If you're the only girl he teases or tries to be around, chances are he's interested.
A friendly guy will definitely make eye contact during conversation—it's only the polite thing to do, after all—but if he looks at you randomly from afar, he's interested. If you ever catch him trying to sneak a peek at a part of your body other than your eyes while you do talk, he's definitely interested.
This can mean buying a drink in a social setting, freely giving compliments, side arm hugs or other non-sexual touches, a platonic friendship. The term “harmless” is only applicable if you are willing to disclose this behavior (without shame or concern) to your partner.
The coding showed the most effective flirting cues include a head turned to one side and tilted down slightly, a slight smile, and eyes turned forward toward the implied target.
A good flirt cares for others —by listening to and showing interest in them—while simultaneously not taking their partner too seriously yet always appearing confident. In other words, successful flirting requires high emotional intelligence.
They draw the line: Natural flirts know when and where to stop. They will not lead someone on unnecessarily or give them the wrong idea about their real feelings and cause heartache or heartbreak, neither will they come on too strong and make you want to run for your dear life.
Physical flirts are big on touching. They'll lean into you, adjust their stance toward you, play with their hair or put focus on their mouth—this style of flirting is sexually charged, to say the least.
Things You Should Know
She's definitely flirting if she looks at you frequently, teases you, touches you when she's excited or happy, or texts you random, funny things. She might be flirting if she laughs at your stories, calls you nicknames, makes up excuses to talk to you, or adjusts her body language toward you.
Men love women who flirt. Men are drawn to a good flirt because besides being fun and charming, she's definitely not shy. The flirter shows interest right off the bat, making the “getting to know you” aspect of courtship all the more easy. For a guy, not having to do all the work is a relief.