“Parents tend to favour a child that is most like them, reminds them of themselves, or represents what they view as a success of parenting,” she says. “Younger children are most likely to have been raised by a parent who, over time and experience, is more confident and skilled in their child-raising.”
Favoritism may cause a child to have anger or behavior problems, loneliness, increased levels of depression, a lack of self-esteem, or a refusal to interact with others. These issues may appear in children who were favored by a parent and those who were not.
Sometimes, it's the similarities that parents see between themselves and a particular child. Other times, research says, it's because of the closeness of their relationship with that child as well as the degree to which that child's values align with theirs, how proud they are of that child, and more.
“The biggest long-term dangers are depression, anxiety, unstable or even traumatic reactions in personal relationships, and performance anxiety for both the favored and non-favored children,” says Williams. She also discusses self-esteem issues and feelings of rejection following the child into adulthood.
The survey concluded that parents tend to favour their youngest child over the elder. More than half of the parents quizzed said they preferred their youngest child, while only 26 per cent said that their favourite child was their eldest.
Most parents have a favourite child, and it's probably the eldest, according to researchers. A study conducted at the University of California shows that out of 768 parents surveyed, 70 per cent of mothers and 74 per cent of fathers admitted to having a favourite child.
Researchers found that 13.3 percent of the most attractive children were buckled while only 1.2 percent of children categorized as the least attractive were buckled. Researchers concluded that fathers were more likely to favor attractive children when buckling them into the basket.
Even if you don't fully recognize it, research indicates that there's a good chance that you actually do have a favorite. In fact, one study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found 74% of moms and 70% of dads reported preferential treatment toward one child.
Parental favoritism is associated with a host of negative outcomes. Americans who grew up in families with favorites are more than twice as likely to report they felt lonely at least once a week growing up (40 percent vs. 18 percent).
When parents favor one child over another, abuse does not necessarily follow. Favoritism is normal but abuse is not. Mothers and fathers commonly prefer one child to another for many conscious and unconscious reasons.
Playing favoritism not only undermines integrity as the leading value of organizations and teams, but actually promotes a toxic culture. In a toxic culture, distrust becomes more prevalent than character. Teams and individuals are not able to collaborate effectively, let alone to build a high performing organization.
Favoritism is commonly associated with a bond that develops between the child and the parent. Moreover, the favoring parent may have a guilt, remorse, or negative emotion associated with the unfavored child. In some cases, a detachment occurs because of some major traumatic event or a major life challenge.
Families rarely talk about this, but research shows that many parents do, in fact, have a favorite and least favorite child. And more often than not, their kids are wrong about who is who.
Other research has shown that parents favor the better-looking child because they have more of a chance of finding a mate. From an evolutionary perspective, parents favor the child that's most likely to reproduce. “In the end, it's about which child will yield more healthy offspring,” says Nikiforidis.
According to a recent survey of nearly 2,000 families, 40 percent of parents found their children to be the most lovable/fun at the age of 5. Meanwhile, they found kids to be the most difficult to spend time with between the ages of 10 and 12.
A recent study has found that it's not the youngest child that's liked the most. It's actually the eldest! While eldest children around the world have had to be the example for their younger siblings and parents being extra strict on them, it looks like there was a good reason.
But while age and personality play a role in why one child gets more from a parent than another, over and above this are issues of parental stress. When parents experience financial strain, mental health problems or partner conflict, differential parenting or sibling favouritism becomes more marked.
06/8They have a softer tone when speaking to you - it's not the same with your sibling. Whether in-person or on the phone, if you're your parents' favourite child, they're most likely to speak to you in a softer, more loving tone. On the contrary, they'll always sound strict and harsh while speaking to your siblings.
Why experts agree authoritative parenting is the most effective style. Studies have found that authoritative parents are more likely to raise confident kids who achieve academic success, have better social skills and are more capable at problem-solving.
This allowed the researchers to look at the genetic component of attractiveness. They found that attractiveness is hereditary, passed on from father to son. Previous research has shown that females that mate with attractive males do not produce more offspring than those mating with less desirable males.
Your success in life may be influenced by your birth order, according to the economist Sandra E. Black. Black points to research she and her colleagues have conducted that found that firstborns tend to be smarter, richer, and all-around more successful than their younger siblings.
Researchers have found that 74% of mothers and 70% of fathers admit to having a favourite child - and children say there is a bias towards the eldest one.
The favored child can become very angry at his parents, wondering if perhaps they only pretended to care about him while secretly giving his siblings all the real gifts; he can deeply resent his siblings and be vindictive toward them and fiercely competitive for the tiniest morsels of parental attention.