It's quite likely that a narcissistic parent will try to manipulate the situation to avoid any shame on themselves for your no contact. They might: tell lies about you and the reason you're not in contact. try to make themselves out as the victim of the situation.
This works with some narcissists, but not others. Low Contact means reserving contact for emergencies and holidays, knowing there will likely be abuse offered. This is like returning to the stove again and again, knowing you will get burned, but deciding the circumstances warrant it.
A narcissist struggles with no in-person contact because they utilize body language to communicate, get their needs met, and maintain control. They have low self-esteem, and without validation, they can come become moody, angry, and irritable.
Daughters of narcissistic mothers often become enmeshed with their parent, losing contact with their true self and growing up without boundaries and without the ability to recognise or nurture healthy relationships.
A narcissistic mother may feel entitled or self-important, seek admiration from others, believe she is above others, lack empathy, exploit her children, put others down, experience hypersensitivity to criticism, believe she deserves special treatment, and worst of all, maybe naïve to the damage she is causing.
So yes, narcissists can miss you in the sense that they feel bad when an emotional need isn't being met when you're not around and thus they want you back in their life. They need someone to boost their ego and make them feel good about themselves.
Yes, narcissists panic and wait for you to break the No Contact. That's not because they miss your presence, it's a harsh thing to accept, but it's true. Considering a narcissist's need for control, admiration, and validation, they'll do what it takes to get it back.
Now that you are gone, there is a sense of emptiness and dissatisfaction. At this stage, the narcissist is eager to fill that empty space, which is why they keep contacting you. Unfortunately, this doesn't mean that they really love you or miss you in a way that most people understand.
Most narcissists will view being blocked as an act of aggression. A blocked narcissist won't have any ability to silence or control you, which is very important for them. This is highly likely to be an overwhelming and scary feeling for them.
No, she wouldn't miss you like a normal mother. She will miss her narcissistic supply. But she will play the victim, she will act like a healthy mother losing her child, she will desperately try to find you.
Narcissistic collapse happens when a person with narcissistic personality disorder experiences a failure, humiliation, or other blow to their secretly fragile self-esteem. Depending on the type of narcissist, collapse may look different and happen more frequently.
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A narcissist is likely to be enraged when they begin to lose control. They may lash out at you, go on a smear campaign, or purposefully ignore you. They may also lovebomb you to reel you back in. Their main goal is to get your attention, provoke a response, and regain power.
“You knew I didn't like it, but you still did it to hurt me.” “You only think about yourself.” “You always look for attention.” “You don't deserve everything that I have done for you.”
They're utterly delusional in believing that you couldn't possibly want to be with anyone else because there is no one better than them. Because you've moved on to someone new, your new partner serves as a constant reminder that they were not good enough for you, so they'll launch an attack against them.
Many won't let you go, even when they are the ones who left the relationship, and even when they're with a new partner. They won't accept “no.” They hoover in an attempt to rekindle the relationship or stay friends after a breakup or divorce.
No. Narcissists will never miss you because they do not develop healthy feelings for people. They only care about themselves. They have almost zero emotional attachment to other people and only care about themselves.
Many narcissistic mothers see their daughters as extensions of themselves. Their daughter's successes reflect well on them. They live their lives through their children and can become extremely controlling. When you're on the receiving end of this, it can feel suffocating and when you get the chance to escape—you do.
A mother's role-playing has direct effects on the child that can be long-lasting and highly damaging. Children of mothers who play the victim may feel inadequate and struggle to maintain boundaries, recognize the abuse, and voice their needs.