“Why You Should Never Say “Shut Up” to Your Child Sometimes they want backtalk to stop, sometimes they want complaining to stop, and sometimes they're just tired of listening to their child. No matter what the context, saying “Shut up” is rarely helpful and never appropriate.
Be mindful and kind with your words
Although fine for your own inner dialogue, avoid negative statements out loud like, "you never stop talking!" because these can lead to shame and a negative self-image. Instead, explain that as much as you love hearing what they have to say, it is impossible to listen all day.
Who uses shut up? In general, shut up is often seen as a disrespectful way to dismiss someone. This can range from someone making a distracting noise while you're trying to work to stopping people from going on and on about something to trying to silence them because they are voicing an objectionable opinion.
It's true that when your child reaches the age of 18, they are legally seen as an adult and are legally responsible for their own behavior instead of their parents. They can't break laws, of course – being 18 just means you can be tried as an adult, not that you're free to do anything you please.
Obviously, each child and family is different but overall, parents think the hardest years are between 6-8 with 8 being the hardest age to parent.
MD. Overbearing mothers hover, criticize, and overstep boundaries, which can lead to a host of challenges for their adult children including low self-esteem, dependence, and perfectionism. These mothers may think they are doing what's best for their children, but ultimately their hovering causes harm.
Simply, turn away and don't give your child any attention as long as she's pestering you. When she realizes that her attempts to gain attention aren't effective, she'll eventually give up. Sometimes, behavior problems get worse before they get better. This is especially true when you withdraw your attention.
It is generally considered rude to tell someone to shut up. Even if you phrase it more politely, they may still take offense as people believe they have the right to speak when they feel like it. Yet there are certain situations where it is fully justified and could save both your lives.
Kids and adults with ADHD may also monopolize conversations and talk excessively. 2 Some parents might refer to it as "diarrhea of the mouth." It is like hyperactivity with words. Talking too much can be hard for kids, parents, and teachers alike.
But “lazy” is one of those things never to tell children because you're name-calling and labeling with a word that carries a lot of weight. Calling a child lazy is dangerous because “lazy” describes work, and in our country, work and worth are synonymous.
Disrespect. Disrespect from children and teens can be shown in a variety of ways - the most common being backtalk, complaining, arguing, attitude, or just plain ignoring.
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You can simply say: “I've enjoyed talking to you, but I need to go now.” Or: “Sorry, but I don't have time to talk anymore.” If you're engaging with someone who is overly talkative, it's likely they know this, but just struggle to recognise when they're taking up more time than the other person wants to give.
Be explicit and you're more likely to succeed. Try, "During a meeting, please don't talk for more than one minute at a time" or, "During a discussion, after you make a point, please let other people respond." Now the talker knows your limits and has something to aim for.
While it's considered rude to abruptly end a conversation, there are times when the best way to deal with a conflict is to stop talking altogether. If someone is being rude, aggressively persistent, or pushing your buttons in an unhealthy way, there are several strategies to make people stop talking.
There are lots of reasons kids talk too much. They may just be passionate about a topic and want to share every single detail about it. Kids may also talk nonstop if they're stressed out. They may not know how to calm themselves, so they talk and talk.
Use calm consequences
As an example, if you want your child to stop scribbling on the walls, you can tell them to stop or else you will end their play time. This provides them with a warning and an opportunity to change their behaviour.
Lazy parenting includes being uninterested in spending time and energy with kids, giving kids devices to shut them up, not being willing to listen to kids because they are too lazy to deal with uncomfortable feelings and tantrums, etc.
Emotionally absent or cold mothers can be unresponsive to their children's needs. They may act distracted and uninterested during interactions, or they could actively reject any attempts of the child to get close. They may continue acting this way with adult children.
Extreme mental fatigue or physical exhaustion. Being “short tempered” Feeling emotionally depleted. Feeling disconnected or isolated from others, including one's children.