It's possible for an empath and narcissist to make it work. But as the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship begins to fade, the relationship between an empath and narcissist may become more toxic.
Empaths tend to desire validation and love from a narcissist, potentially due to their childhood experience of not having their emotional needs met by a caregiver or parent. Likely, an empath had a narcissistic parent, or experienced some kind of emotional neglect in which they learned that love is conditional.
Eventually, the empath begins to adopt the traits of the narcissist. Because their emotional needs are not being met (and they've been confusing their partner's emotional needs with their own) they start to seem “selfish,” or at least predominantly concerned with their own well-being.
While the narcissist might respond with their characteristic rage, the super-empath is able to remain calm and simply ask the narcissist what's behind their behavior. That's the last thing the narcissist wants to discuss, and this tactic usually makes them back down.
One of the first things that happen to an Empath when they leave a relationship with a Narcissist is that they will deeply fear that they are a narcissist themselves. Taking a step toward yourself by acknowledging what you need and letting go of the idea that it's all your fault will feel selfish and wrong.
An empath will unknowingly feed the needs and desires of a narcissist by constantly giving their energy, emotions and time. And a narcissist will follow suit by taking and ultimately sucking the energy from an empath, like a leech. This viscous cycle becomes the foundation for an abusive and toxic relationship.
When the narcissist threatens to ruin the empath's reputation by sharing secrets to keep them dependent, the super empaths will share their secrets first. Although empaths feel shame and guilt, they will take the narcissist's power away at every opportunity. And that will destroy the narcissist.
But narcissistic behavior appears to be a learned set of traits; which means they're correctable. By working together as a team (and with a narcissist's commitment to change), and seeking couples and/or individual counseling, the empath and narcissist can create a happier ending for their relationship.
Intellectuals can make good partners for certain empaths because their sense of logic compliments and grounds an empath's emotional intensity. Ask for help. Intellectuals love to solve problems. Be very specific about ways they can assist you with a problem or task.
The best way to know if a narcissist loves you is by looking at their behavior over time rather than just relying on words or expressions of affection. If they are consistently putting your needs first, even when it doesn't directly benefit them, then it may be possible that they truly care for you.
Many people love narcissists and have maintained successful relationships with them. They may need to acknowledge their behaviors and take steps to rein them in, though. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, a healthy connection may not be possible.
If there is one type of person for an empath to avoid besides a narcissist, it's a chronic complainer. Chronic complainers, characterized by negativity, learned helplessness, and vocal self-pity, can take a bright, beautiful, positive day and quickly turn it into a massive nightmare.
Cut off all contact. If you maintain any contact with a narcissist, they will think you are still hanging onto feelings for them, and they may try to re-engage you or draw you back in with promises of change. If you're truly interested in detaching from a relationship with a narcissist, you have to cut off all contact.
A Marriage with a Narcissist or with a Person with Borderline Personality Disorder is Lonely. You will never feel as lonely as when you are married to someone with narcissism or borderline personality disorder. This is because their psychopathology and personality disorder make it impossible for him to be there for you ...
Unfortunately, narcissists are unable to put the happiness of anyone else ahead of their own. Nor can they offer unconditional love to another due to their obsession with status and achievement. One of the narcissistic traits that makes it so hard for narcissists to love another is their lack of empathy.
When you are in a narcissistic relationship, you may feel very lonely. You might feel like you are just an accessory and your needs and wants are unimportant. Narcissistic partners act as if they are always right, that they know better and that their partner is wrong or incompetent.
So when an empath ends things, the narcissists may not be able to handle the rejection and do everything in their power to win back their estranged partner. They'll lie and say whatever they think the empath wants to hear. Often, this tactic works because narcissists are experts at turning on the charm.
A person with narcissistic personality or narcissistic traits frequently uses manipulation tactics to influence and control others. Common examples of this include gaslighting, triangulation, love bombing, and many others.
What Is the Empath Shutdown? It is when an empath or a highly sensitive person (HSP) emotionally withdraws from an intense situation that involves conflict, violence, or suffering. In essence, it's a self-preservation and coping mechanism that helps them deal with emotional overwhelm.
Some people, known as dark empaths, understand the feelings of others but don't feel these feelings themselves. They might act like they care, but deep down, they don't feel sympathy for you or have a desire to help. They use their understanding of your feelings to manipulate you.
Empaths feel what others are feeling, including toxic people, and they respond to make that person's life better –that is, until they have awakened.