The average mom with a newborn gets significantly less sleep, often averaging around 5-6 hours per night, sometimes broken into short 2-3 hour chunks, for the first few months, far below the recommended 7-9 hours, with many mothers reporting even less, like 3-4 hours or less due to frequent feedings, leading to exhaustion and functional impairment.
On average a new parent will only sleep between 4 and 5 hours of sleep a night, so it is important to try and make preparations before bed to help you get the most out of those minimal hours of rest.
National Sleep Foundation's recommended seven hours of sleep per night during the postpartum period in which they answered the survey. Over three quarters (77.3%) of Michigan mothers reported having very supportive partners.
Newborns should get 14–17 hours of sleep over a 24-hour period, says the National Sleep Foundation. Some newborns may sleep up to 18–19 hours a day. Newborns wake every couple of hours to eat. Breastfed babies feed often, about every 2–3 hours.
The 5-3-3 rule is a loose guideline for structuring a baby's sleep schedule: 5 hours of wake time before the first nap, 3 hours of wake time before the second nap, and 3 hours before bedtime.
The hardest week with a newborn is often considered the first six weeks, especially weeks 2-3, due to extreme sleep deprivation, constant feeding demands, learning baby's cues, postpartum recovery, and a peak in inconsolable crying (the "witching hour"), making parents feel overwhelmed as they adjust to a new, exhausting routine. While the first week is tough, the challenges often intensify as the baby becomes more alert but still fussy, with major developmental hurdles like cluster feeding and increased fussiness peaking around 6-8 weeks.
For babies 5 months and older, aim to follow the 80/20 rule. That means, 80% of the time we try to have naps at home in an “ideal” sleep environment, and 20% of the time we can be flexible with naps outside of the crib or on-the-go.
The 2-hour rule for babies means they shouldn't stay in a car seat (or travel system seat) for more than two hours at a time, whether in or out of the car, because the semi-upright position can strain their developing spine and restrict their breathing, increasing the risk of low oxygen levels, especially for newborns and preemies. For long journeys, parents should take breaks every two hours to take the baby out, allow them to lie flat for a while, stretch, and feed, ensuring they get proper head/neck support and circulation.
And they are tired. Moms report getting on average 5.7 hours of sleep per night. That's 2.2 hours below their partners and 1-3 hours below the recommended amount. In fact, 88% of moms generally feel like they do not get enough rest!
A thin blanket wrapped snuggly around your baby's body can resemble the womb and help soothe your newborn. When done correctly, swaddling can be an effective technique to help calm infants and promote sleep.
The first six to 12 hours after you give birth is considered the acute phase of postpartum recovery. Within this window parents are at their highest risk for conditions like postpartum eclampsia, postpartum hemorrhage, and certain medical emergencies.
Don't be too proud to ask for help
Having the opportunity to have quality sleep can make a huge difference on the way you feel, are able to think and function through the day. Your partner, family or friends can make a huge difference by taking your baby even for a few hours to enable you to recharge.
Increased bleeding after your lochia starts to decrease can be a sign you're overdoing it and need more rest. Seeing ongoing clots could mean your uterus is having trouble getting back to its pre-pregnancy size. In either case, it's always best to call.
Especially those first three months, when newborns eat every two to four hours and don't have a circadian rhythm, most parents will experience some level of sleep deprivation and exhaustion.
Our general sleep recommendation for nursing parents is 6.5 to 8 hours of total sleep every 24 hours. This doesn't need to be one uninterrupted stretch (that's rarely possible in the newborn stage).
The hardest week with a newborn is often considered the first six weeks, especially weeks 2-3, due to extreme sleep deprivation, constant feeding demands, learning baby's cues, postpartum recovery, and a peak in inconsolable crying (the "witching hour"), making parents feel overwhelmed as they adjust to a new, exhausting routine. While the first week is tough, the challenges often intensify as the baby becomes more alert but still fussy, with major developmental hurdles like cluster feeding and increased fussiness peaking around 6-8 weeks.
The 2-3-4 rule for baby sleep is a nap schedule framework for babies usually over 6 months old, suggesting wake windows of 2 hours after the first wake-up, 3 hours between the first and second nap, and 4 hours before bedtime, creating two naps and promoting longer nighttime sleep by increasing wake time throughout the day. It's a flexible guideline to build a predictable routine, but parents should adjust it to their baby's cues as every baby is different.
The koala is famous for sleeping around 20-22 hours a day, which is about 90% of the day, due to their low-energy diet of eucalyptus leaves that requires extensive digestion. Other extremely sleepy animals include the sloth (up to 20 hours) and the brown bat (around 20 hours), with some snakes like the ball python also sleeping up to 23 hours daily.
Why Does SIDS Peak at 2-4 Months? The widely accepted explanation for the SIDS peak has to do with the timeline of brain development. “Up to 4 months old, the part of the brain that controls breathing and wakefulness is under a lot of development,” Juliet explains.
Many car seat manufacturers recommend that a baby should not be in a car seat for longer than 2 hours, within a 24 hour time period. This is because when a baby is in a semi-upright position for a prolonged period of time it can result in: 1. A strain on the baby's still-developing spine.
The 40-day rule after birth, often called confinement or "The Golden Month," is a widespread cultural tradition emphasizing a mother's deep rest, healing, and bonding with her newborn, with family often handling chores and visitors, promoting physical recovery (like stopping bleeding) and mental well-being, rooted in ancient practices from Asia, Latin America, and religious traditions like Judaism and Christianity. Key aspects involve nourishing the mother, sheltering her from stress, and focusing solely on resting and bonding, a stark contrast to Western pressures to "bounce back" quickly.
SIDS is less common after 8 months of age, but parents and caregivers should continue to follow safe sleep practices to reduce the risk of SIDS and other sleep-related causes of infant death until baby's first birthday. More than 90% of all SIDS deaths occur before 6 months of age.
On the legitimacy of the 8-minute nap, he says “sleeping with your legs elevated can help improve sleep onset and quality as it allows blood to flow more easily throughout the body. This is the sleep science behind the 8-minute Navy Seal nap, but that's not the only thing that makes this nap potentially effective.”
While it's quite rare for a baby to sleep too much — and sleeping a little longer than normal isn't usually anything to worry about unless they're showing other symptoms — if they're snoozing through their normal feeding times, unusually difficult to wake, or struggling to gain weight, this could indicate an underlying ...