Because preschoolers take your words at face value, it's important to use simple, accurate language: “Sasha's heart stopped beating. Her body didn't work anymore and she died. That means we will not see her or pet her again.” Let your child know it's okay to be sad.
Be direct and clear and use the terms “death” and “died”. Allow your child to be part of the conversation, appropriate to their age and development, surrounding their pet's illness, treatment, and quality of life. Allow your child to be a part of the decision-making conversation for euthanasia.
Kertz recommends giving your children a chance to say their farewells before putting down a sick pet. The experts at the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement say adults too often try to shelter children from this painful experience, but they warn it's the wrong approach.
Here are some examples of what not to say when a pet dies: "Don't cry." Crying is part of the grieving process for many people. "It's just a [dog/cat/etc.]." A comment like this that downplays the loss is mean and thoughtless. You don't know what the pet meant to that person.
The doctor will listen carefully to your pet's heart to ensure it has stopped before pronouncing him or her gone. After that, there is no danger of your pet waking up. This is a very common fear for pet owners.
As the solution is injected, the animal loses consciousness and within minutes the heart and lungs stop functioning. Since the pet is not conscious, they do not feel anything. Most times, the animal passes away so smoothly, that it is difficult to tell until the veterinarian listens for absence of a heartbeat.
As with humans, the only time animal euthanasia is justified is if the animal is suffering as the result of a debilitating disease with little hope of full recovery.
Research has confirmed that for most people, the loss of a dog is, in almost every way, comparable to the loss of a human loved one.
Gently but directly, use the words 'dead' and 'died' within short explanations. Using euphuisms and vague language often creates fear in children. Phrases like “Passed away, gone to sleep, he's with grandma, lost their life” do not explain in concrete terms that their loved one has died.
Depending on local regulations, your options will include a backyard burial, burial in a pet cemetery, a private cremation (just your pet, and you get the ashes back) or a communal cremation (a group of pets cremated together, and you don't get the ashes back). If none of that suits you, some other options exist.
Yes, sometimes this vet cries. I do not apologise for crying and I tell my clients they do not need to apologise for crying. We love our pets. Grief is love and with grief come tears.
The euthanasia process itself does not hurt, but is similar to going under anesthesia, so your pet may feel odd as they lose consciousness, leading to odd noises or movements. With prior sedation, we can often minimize unusual mannerisms caused by the unconsciousness-inducing effect of the euthanasia solution.
You have every right to be present when a veterinarian examines or treats your companion animal, and this includes euthanasia. A veterinarian should never ask you to leave or tell you that you can't be there for the entire process.
To be truly humane, the method used must not only be pain-free, but stress-free for the animal. Not only can gas chambers cause physical pain for ill, injured, old and young animals (the majority of animals facing euthanasia in shelters), they cause stress in 100% of animals forced into a chamber.
The American Veterinary Medical Association recommends sedation or anesthesia before euthanasia, but it is not required. You can always ask your local veterinarian about the best options for you and your pet.
You may choose to leave your pet with the veterinarian for burial or cremation, or you may be able to bury your pet at home depending on the ordinances in your area. If you choose cremation, you have the option of communal cremation, which is less expensive, but you won't get your pet's ashes back.
Why Pet Loss Hurts. “One reason why losing a pet is such a deep loss is because animals' love is so unconditional and accepting,” she said. But it's also because so many aspects of people's lives are impacted. “Every single facet of life is part of the loss,” she explained.
The Rainbow Bridge is a common metaphor for “pet heaven.” When an animal has died, people will sometimes say something like, “Fluffy has gone to the Rainbow Bridge.” As the story goes, the Rainbow Bridge is located just shy of heaven.
Feeling sad, shocked, or lonely is a normal reaction to the loss of a beloved pet. Exhibiting these feelings doesn't mean you are weak or your feelings are somehow misplaced. It just means that you're mourning the loss of an animal you loved, so you shouldn't feel ashamed.