Provide genuine praise.
Let your child know that you're proud of him or her for making an effort, regardless of the outcome. The key is not to praise your child for everything they do, but to recognize when they do something out of the ordinary, or when they are working hard towards achieving a goal.
Examples of what respect is
You are quiet in a library to show that you care about (respect) others' need to read without interruption. You follow your parents' rules to show them you care (respect) how they feel about the situation. You don't call people names because you care about (respect) their feelings.
Begin by saying that respect can be a feeling — you can feel respect for another person. Then, you can say that, when you feel respect for someone, you want to be polite and kind toward that person. Finally, tell them that, to show respect, you should treat people how you would like to be treated yourself.
"One of the best ways to model respect is to be both kind and firm in all of your discipline," says Nelsen. "Being kind shows respect for your child, and being firm shows respect for what needs to be done."
Control. A major reason our youth talk back and show disrespect is not having enough power and control. Even a one-year old can be heard insisting, "ME DO IT!" As kids reach the age of three and older, they need to be able to start making choices for themselves rather than just being told what to do.
Smile. Empathize and be considerate of others. Make it a routine to smile and greet everyone as you arrive at work—it's a sign of courtesy and kindness. Say “thank you.” It may seem like common sense, but many people forget to say thank you or don't say it with sincerity.
One of the best ways to teach students about respect is through role-playing activities. For example, have students act out different scenarios in which someone needs to show respect (e.g., someone is new in class, someone is sharing about their culture, or people disagree on a topic).
Give them a routine that makes them feel special...a wake-up song or a bedtime story, a note in their lunchbox, or a special treat for their afternoon snack. Ask them how their day went. Surprise them with something special or a parent/child date.
Positive attention, reactions and responses from familiar and trusted grown-ups help children build a picture of how valued they are. Your child's self-image builds up over time with positive, loving messages from you and other important people in your child's life.
#1 Offer unconditional love
Making sure your kids know you love them for who they are, not what they do or how they behave, is number one. In order for kids to feel like they belong out in the world, they have to belong at home first. Having this constant at home, reminds them of their true belonging wherever they are.
Acknowledgment—>Tolerance—>Admiration—>Deference: Typical office dynamics can embody this sequence, with tolerance coming after acknowledgement, if only because, unlike a squatter, a new employee is invited and recognized from the outset, which provides a base from which to negotiate what will or will not be tolerated.
Some examples of respect in daily life are: Greeting or speaking to others in a kind and respectful way, giving up your seat in public places, giving way, or treating others as you would like to be treated. Self-respect: This type of respect refers to the ability to respect oneself, to value and appreciate oneself.
Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing. Respect doesn't have to come naturally – it is something you learn.
The parents even called the age of 8 the "hateful eights," which is a little harsh, but the parents noted that tantrums seem to have really intensified around the age of 8.
Confront Disrespect Early and Often
Intervene and say: “We don't talk to each other that way in this family.” Giving consequences when your kids are younger is going to pay off in the long run. As a parent, it's crucial that if you see your child being disrespectful to admit it and then try to nip it in the bud.
Being a good parent means you need to teach your child the morals of what is right and what is wrong. Setting limits and being consistent is the golden rule to good discipline. Be kind and firm when you set rules and enforce them. Focus on the reason behind the child's misbehavior.
Children may want to answer your questions, see your reaction to what they are doing, talk to you about their ideas. This is a sign of your child's attachment and trust in you. Children see you as a safe support: When they arrive in a new environment, they may act as both exploring and running to hug you.
Respectful parenting is about ending childism and relating to children in a way that honors them as people. It is such a gift to be able to have a relationship with your children based on equality, mutual respect, and love. But respect is not forced or demanded, it is earned.