Despite the problems in relationship skills experienced by many people with Asperger's syndrome, some adults can progress along the relationship continuum and are able to experience romantic and subsequently intimate personal relationships, even becoming a lifelong partner.
I have found, as an Aspie among neurotypical folks, that having realistic expectations of others is of critical importance in order to be happy. The higher your expectations are of the people around you, the more likely you are to feel let down by them at some point, even when they haven't done anything wrong.
Aspies tend to express love through practical actions, whereas NTs are more likely to express love through words or symbolic actions.
Many people with Asperger syndrome have intense and highly focused interests, often from a fairly young age. These can change over time or be lifelong, and can be anything from art or music, to trains or computers. An interest may sometimes be unusual. One person loved collecting rubbish, for example.
The Asperger's mind enjoys and focuses on details, while the normal mind is more skilled at assembling whole concepts from details. Some people with Asperger's are visual thinkers and others are math, music, or number thinkers, but all think in specifics.
Low: Use a low, quiet voice to speak to your child. Slow: Their language processing is generally slower than ours (especially after a meltdown) so speak few words and each word slowly. Offer choices: In your quiet, slow speech, give them a couple of choices that they can choose to do now to feel better.
People with Asperger profiles absolutely do have feelings, although they may have difficulty identifying and discussing them. In fact, many feelings – such as fear, anger and joy – seem to be experienced more intensely by those with Asperger profiles than by average people.
What is the Silent Treatment? Silent treatment is when a person is not willing to communicate with the other person verbally. People, who make use of it, tend to ignore the presence of the other person. Autistic individuals may use this often to manipulate others, but also due to multiple other reasons.
The partner with Aspergers can behave intrusively. The partner with Aspergers may “shut-down” if they don't know what to say or how to behave. They may disengage with partner or family indefinitely. The partner with Aspergers may have great difficulty cooperating with others or working as part of a team or unit.
Partners have reported problems with sexual knowledge and intimacy. Adults with Asperger's syndrome tend to be at the extremes of sexual knowledge, having either remarkably little information on sexuality and few sexual experiences, or a great deal of knowledge from pornography or being sexually abused.
Studies find that approximately 73% of children with Asperger's Syndrome (AS) experience sleep problems, and these problems tend to last longer in this group than they do for children without AS. For example, children with AS are more likely to be sluggish and disoriented after waking.
May not recognize verbal and non-verbal cues or understand social norms. For example, they may stare at others, not make eye contact, or not know what personal space means.
People with Asperger's syndrome usually don't understand conventional social rules, they may not make eye contact with other people or they may seem unable to understand sarcasm.
Many techniques are available to those who suffer from Asperger's to help them control their anger. These include learning to be self-aware of their behavior, relaxation techniques, self-talking, using visual imagery, and attending anger management classes or cognitive behavioral therapy.
Angry outbursts or crying fits may erupt when an Aspie's emotional reservoir overflows. Perhaps in part because Aspies cannot easily access our emotions, we cannot easily regulate them.