Looking to whatever it is that gives us hope can be incredibly helpful for INFJs who feel overwhelmed by heartache. Listen to relaxing music, read a good book, meditate on something that gives you a sense of hope.
Because of how INFJs deal with past pain, they're likely to have similar reactions to trauma. These include: Avoiding people, places, or things that remind them of the trauma. Experiencing fear and anxiety about the outside world.
INFJs are strong individuals and they prize themselves upon being able to see things in a different light. They believe in them with a conviction that can't be matched, so rejecting those beliefs is direct rejection of them.
Few things devastate an INFJ like heartbreak or having lost someone they love. While their friends may be able to get over an ended relationship more quickly and not understand why the INFJ isn't able to do the same, there are a number of reasons that the INFJ tends to find moving on from heartbreak a struggle.
If an INFJ is sad, they often want to talk about it but find it tremendously difficult to trust people with their emotions. They also likely already have their own solutions after taking the time to process their feelings, but they like to air everything out by talking about the situation.
INFJs are very emotional beings. They feel. Deeply. An INFJ's tears mean a range of things and are not given to generic understanding that when one cries, it is usually because they are sad or angry.
INFJs without a vision for the future feel listless and apathetic, as if they're lost in a fog and unable to find a light to guide them home. In order to escape this reality, they may sleep whenever they can, slack on their responsibilities, or just shut down.
Mainly, because they can be too nice for their own good. As empathetic personalities, INFJs can feel deeply what someone else is feeling and have a tendency to try to “fix” others. When you put others first all the time, you're bound to come across people who want to take advantage of your generosity.
Because INFJs require commitment early on, many people shy away from dating INFJs. While this trait can make it difficult for INFJs to start a romantic relationship, it also serves them by weeding out potential partners who are afraid of commitment.
They crave deep mental and emotional connections with others; proximity or just a few shared interests won't cut it. This is especially true when it comes to love and dating. As a result, INFJs can really struggle to find Mr. or Mrs. Right.
INFJs are so concerned with maintaining harmony and improving the moods and emotions of others, that they can leave their own emotions and feelings untended. As a result, they can wind up feeling overloaded with other people's feelings and lost and alone when managing their own.
Advocate (INFJ) Weaknesses. Sensitive to Criticism – Advocates aren't averse to feedback – that is, unless they believe that someone is challenging their most cherished principles or values. When it comes to the issues that are near and dear to them, people with this personality type can become defensive or dismissive.
INFJs are sensitive souls who are easily overwhelmed, but they have their limits. If they feel stressed by their environment, or the people in it, they'll tend to cry or become very quiet and want to be alone. Some INFJs will be cold, sarcastic and very blunt or speak to someone only on a very superficial level.
When I surveyed INFJs about their flirting styles, more than anything, they expressed a deep desire to connect emotionally with someone they liked. They will be more emotionally open, express more of their deeper longings, and become more vulnerable with you if they like you.
It is extremely important for an INFJ to feel understood. INFJs show love through little things like asking if you've had lunch, asking about your day, asking how your family is doing and so on. They might even ask these things every day (at least I do).
INFJs are not easy to read, but they can easily read others. INFJs pick up on other people's moods, energy or intentions and can read them like a book. But they hide their own feelings behind a poker face, so it's tough for others to read them.
Here's Who Drives an INFJ Crazy:
They have a ceaseless hunger for authority, especially over your decisions. They pride themselves on “telling it like it is”, but this only succeeds in making the look superior and unabashedly tactless.
Perhaps the most telling sign of burnout is a dwindling passion for your job, or doubt about whether this is the job for you. When you have become entirely spent, the amount of energy you can dedicate to your job starts to dwindle. When INFJs can't give their 100 percent, we start second-guessing our decisions.
Because of our passionate need for meaningful connection, we INFJs can get jealous easily when we see other people connecting and having fun. We might compare ourselves to them, or worse yet, when someone close to us has friends of their own, we might pull away, feeling unwanted and pathetic.
Too many details or other sensory stimuli can provoke a stress reaction in INFJs, especially when you feel uncertain about a situation. Unexpected environments, events or interruptions unsettle you greatly since you are forced to focus on immediate, sensory details rather than relying on your intuition.
INFJs will not reveal their feelings to someone they love or admire until they are absolutely sure that the person feels the same way.
INFJs and Boredom
You feel bored when you lack a long-term vision or purpose. You tend to be single-minded and idealistic, always searching for the “one thing” that you were called to do in life. When you don't know where you're going in life or what that goal is you can struggle with apathy or procrastination.