Anger or Aggression Anger and aggression are two other common initial reactions to accusations of cheating.
Cheaters may lie or deny what happened.
They might also say things to make you doubt yourself, like “You're just being paranoid,” or “That's crazy, why would you think that?” This form of deception is called “gaslighting.” Spotting the difference between a lie and an honest denial can be tricky.
Innocent people can react to false accusations of cheating can in a variety of ways. Common reactions include surprise and disbelief, denial of the accusation, anger and frustration, a desire to prove their innocence, and a willingness to cooperate with any efforts to investigate the situation.
A whole separate phone or SIM card
The most clever cheaters may use a separate phone or SIM card to keep phone communication discreet. A SIM card is especially devious because your partner can use the same device and then switch out the entire volume of data without anyone realizing it.
When cheaters are confronted, they sometimes act in ways that are puzzling, such as crying. While a cheater crying may indicate that they're truly regretful of their actions, it could also mean that they're trying to manipulate you.
Avoid dragging this matter out by giving futile explanations and creating a mile-long apology for cheating. Keep the apology short and specific, but meaningful and genuine. Also, never put blame on your other half to justify or explain cheating. It will only push them away from you – and that's the last thing you want!
Look for these telltale signs to determine true remorse: Not only do they apologize, and often, but they also openly express what they're apologizing for. They don't make vague statements or blanket apologies. They show their remorse by doing things that they feel will lessen your pain.
Unfaithful partners usually lie about how they spend their time, their money, who they are talking to on the phone, or where they have been. For instance, they may say that they are having to work longer hours, weekends, evenings, or travel for work more often to cover for an affair.
'A phone placed face down is a known warning sign and is seen as a red flag that a person can be cheating or might be hiding something. Because it is known to cause suspicion of cheating the solution for many cheaters is to turn off their notifications or hide them to avoid questions. '
Anger or Aggression
Anger and aggression are two other common initial reactions to accusations of cheating. Cheaters often use anger as a form of deflection to turn the situation around and make accusations against you instead, like that you don't trust them enough.
A cheater, however, may get defensive because you've blown their cover, says Milrad. "It is very common for cheaters to deflect responsibility and get irritated by your questions. They often try and shut you down and even criticize you for being too controlling or suspicious."
A cheater might suffer from extremely low self-esteem and a narcissistic view of seeing things. Some people have a tendency for attention-seeking and once they are satisfied with one person they might go on to another to fulfil their needs and validate themselves.
Results of a 2005 study show that there is a significant difference between cheaters and non-cheaters when it comes to the Big Five model of personality traits. Poor self control, selfishness, anger, boredom, and attention-seeking are the most common reasons a person is unfaithful in their relationship.
It's also possible for your partner to falsely accuse you of cheating because they're just feeling jealous or insecure and not projecting. Unfortunately, that's still a bad sign, because this kind of jealousy and insecurity is common in people who cheat.
And yet, 54% of Americans say they know someone who has an unfaithful spouse. Research in the field of infidelity reveals that there are three distinct personality types correlated with a higher likelihood of cheating: sociopaths, narcissists, and lonely hearts.
Guilty reactions to cheating are psychological but also tend to manifest externally in behavior, actions, and physiology. Cheater's guilt is when the person who has transgressed feels terrible about his or her actions and struggles with what to do. It is a painful feeling of having let down the person you love.
Statistics show that only 31% of marriages last after the affair has been discovered or admitted to. People who are unfaithful to their partners regret causing their loved one so much pain and heartache. Even if the couple decides to stay together, it's very hard for them to have a trust-based, happy relationship.
"Pretend Normal" is a term we use at Affair Recovery. It's not as much about how we present ourselves to others as it is about our refusal to see ourselves and to admit the actual ramifications of what we've done. We don't want to accept the realities of our limitations or our defects of character.
Only when the consequences start piling up do most cheaters realize that they made a mistake. In other cases, if you're able to spot the cheating guilt signs in someone, know that they've most probably realized the mistake they've made and are now finding it difficult to deal with cheater's guilt.
The karma of betrayal in a relationship is surely true but that doesn't mean you go out of your way to punish them and plot vengeance against them. Cheaters get karma by drowning in self-hate which is a consequence of their own actions.