To be a good kisser, focus on fresh breath, soft lips, communication through touch, starting slow, matching your partner's pace, using hands and body, varying pressure, and adding gentle bites or tongue (less is more), all while paying close attention to your partner's cues and enjoying the connection rather than rushing or overthinking it, say relationship experts.
Tips & techniques to try:
The 90/10 kissing rule, popularized by the movie Hitch, suggests that one person leans in 90% of the way for a kiss and pauses, allowing the other person to close the remaining 10%, which signals their consent and involvement, preventing it from feeling forced and creating anticipation. This technique gives the other person control, allowing them to either lean in for the kiss or pull away, indicating their comfort level.
There's lots of reasons you may not feel this way, including but not limited to anxiety prior to the kiss, lack of attraction to the person, the kiss being overall bad or awkward, or just not being in the mood. Alternatively, some people just generally for whatever reason don't like kissing at all.
Show them what you like
Sometimes, a bad kisser just doesn't know any better and it's important to show them how it's done. Take the lead, kiss them the way you want to be kissed – whether that's harder or gentler, with more tongue or less – and hope that they get the hint.
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Here are some techniques that can help improve your next make-out session:
Basorexia is defined as an intense craving or obsession for kissing. Individuals with a heightened sense of basorexia may have an underlying need for intimacy. Basorexia has been associated with the release of dopamine.
Sensing the hubbub, the adrenal glands unleash adrenaline. Cue a pounding heart, heavy breathing, or sweaty palms. (If you two become a couple, kissing could eventually trigger an opposite effect—peace instead of passion.)
Gottman's research is based on decades of observations of over 650 couples in the so-called Love Lab. The "6-second kiss" is a small but significant recommendation from John Gottman: "A deliberate, passionate kiss lasting at least six seconds - every day."
Keep your mouth soft and relaxed
Both a cranked-open jaw and a closed-mouth, hard pucker aren't the most pleasant to smooch. Keep your lips just-apart enough, allowing the kisses to be soft and deep, and keep your mouth relaxed. You want to see where the kiss takes you.
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Basorexia means the overwhelming desire, or sudden urge, to kiss someone.
noun. ˈlip-ˌläk. : a long amorous kiss.
Definitions from Wiktionary (kissproof) ▸ adjective: (of lipstick) Resistant to smearing when the wearer is kissed. Similar: smearproof, kissable, touchproof, kissworthy, smudgeproof, biteproof, rubproof, brushproof, taintproof, spillproof, more...
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First, let's look at the “throbbing kiss.” Ignore your partner's upper lip and focus on kissing the lower lip in a soft, teasing manner. This will leave him or her wanting more. If you really want to curl your partner's toes, try slowly running your tongue across his or her lip while kissing as well.
The earlobe kiss is a great way to spice up your kissing style. The earlobe is an especially sensitive part of the body with loads of sensory receptors, which makes it the perfect spot to kiss as you're deep in a makeout session.
One of the most common vulnerable points of a man during romance is the fear of rejection. Even when he appears confident, he may silently worry about being turned away emotionally or physically. This fear can make him hesitant to express his feelings or desires fully.
3. LIZZY KISS. Have you ever seen how a lizard sticks out its tongue? This is a similar type of kiss wherein both the partners stick out their tongues and kiss each other without the use of their lips.
Most people can't focus on anything as close as a face at kissing distance so closing your eyes saves them from looking at a distracting blur or the strain of trying to focus. Kissing can also make us feel vulnerable or self-conscious and closing your eyes is a way of making yourself more relaxed.