Most men who initiate breakups or hurt their partners through their actions or words do eventually experience remorse over losing their beloved. Ultimately, your man will likely realize the flaws in his behavior and actions. Men do painfully come to terms with the harsh reality that they've lost a very special lady.
Men regret losing women that they've been able to connect with on a deeper level. The more a man loves and respects you, the more regret he'll feel when he loses you. While there's no definitive roadmap about how to be the kind of girl guys regret losing, there are some traits that most of these women have in common.
If he's worried about you and constantly calls/messages to make sure you are okay, these are signs a guy is heartbroken and deeply regrets his actions. He can't seem to get out of the habit of staying in touch with you all day. That's why he tries to connect constantly with some pretext or another.
To start with, many emotions go on when a man hurts you. Anger, frustration, disappointment, and resentment are a few of what a man feels when his woman is broken. The specific feeling a man has will depend on what caused the disagreement or fight in the first place.
Men regret losing the kind of woman who is emotionally independent, bold enough to take care of her own life and happiness, and kind to her near and dear ones. She doesn't look back after someone disrespects her and won't give in easily to the proposition of getting back together with that person.
Many people feel a sense of grief for the person and relationship they lost. Your significant other might very well experience intense sadness after you walk away as he grieves for what you had together. Being dumped can also cause him to question his self-worth and lower his self-esteem. He may miss you.
We feel they love us even though they treat us badly. This contradiction is known as cognitive dissonance, where we believe two contradictory thoughts at the same time. As a result of the contradiction we can become more extreme in our thoughts and behaviours as we wrestle with the disconnect.
He won't want to bring it up or talk about whatever he did because he hopes you will forget about it. On the other hand, if he's done something bad and now he feels uncomfortable being around you because of all that guilt, he may lash out in other ways. He may be ruder, he may pick more fights, etc.
Not telling someone I liked/loved them.
This is a huge regret for many people because it relates to something they didn't do. The things we fail to do — or the actions we don't take — often stick with us longer because they make us think “if only”.
He recognizes your efforts, even the smallest things. He knows he wouldn't be who he is today without you and shows his appreciation by saying “I love you” and kissing you on the cheek. He always says "thank you", but sometimes he'll grab your face and whisper it softly, so you know he really means it this time.
Scientific study reveals men never actually get over the breakup of a significant relationship. We, on the other hand, learn to deal with it and move on.
Guys realize what they lost when they finally slow down and learn some humility. Every man is on a hero's journey at some point in their life. They think their goals are what really matter. But at some point, sooner or later, a man will learn that the purpose of his goals is to contribute back to society.
Fear of conflict.
Usually, the longer you've been with someone, the more conflicted the process is. It is a sad reality that many men (and women) stay in unfulfilling relationships month after month, year after year, because they fear the pain involved in breaking up and moving on.
Love is closely connected with vulnerability: the ability to hurt and to be hurt. Although some kinds of hurt in love are intended, most of them are not. Nevertheless, someone who deliberately hurts another person can simultaneously claim to love that person.
The best revenge is to learn to forgive, not to hold onto the anger inside. To forgive means to be free.
It turns out there's some science to back up my hard-earned (and real life) conclusions. A recent study found that while break-ups take a more immediate emotional toll on women, men often "never fully recover — they simply move on." I consulted a few mental health and relationship experts to learn more.
Neuroimaging studies have shown that brain regions involved in processing physical pain overlap considerably with those tied to social anguish. The connection is so strong that traditional bodily painkillers seem capable of relieving our emotional wounds. Love may actually hurt, like hurt hurt, after all.
You may hurt the one you love the most simply because they are the ones that are mostly around. Our emotions, thoughts and behaviours are in constant interplay. If we have a negative mood, we are therefore more likely to act in ways that match our emotional state or get triggered by innocuous and harmless stimuli.
Men often go through an emotional state called “Dumpers Remorse” after the woman finally goes away. This state hits after one month to six weeks after the man passes through the initial happy phase after a breakup. He starts to give away signs he knows he messed up the whole thing from that time.
Yes, a man can walk away from a woman whom he loves. There is more to every relationship than just love. If a man feels insecure, undervalued, disrespected, or unhappy with the relationship, then he might choose to walk out even when he loves his partner.
You create strength
One of the biggest reasons why walking away is powerful is because it gives you a strength you never thought you had. The power of walking away from a woman or man builds an emotional armor that can get you through even the most difficult situations.