People with ADHD often struggle with emotional dysregulation, leading to intense emotions and difficulty managing them, which can appear as a lack of emotional intelligence (EI), especially with challenges in recognizing cues, regulating responses, and expressing feelings appropriately, though they do experience emotions deeply, often with lower scores on specific EI measures like recognizing nonverbal cues. It's not a total absence of EI, but rather significant impairments in its components, tied to executive function deficits.
In summary, emotion dysregulation is found in around 25-45% of children and between 30-70% of adults with ADHD. It represents a major source of impairment and presages a poor clinical outcome.
Everyday situations, like being interrupted during a task or dealing with unexpected changes, can trigger disproportionate feelings of annoyance. This heightened irritability occurs because ADHD affects the brain's ability to self-regulate emotions, making it harder to “reset” and calm down when faced with frustration.
People who have ADHD frequently experience emotions so deeply that they become overwhelmed or “flooded.” They may feel joy, anger, pain, or confusion in a given situation—and the intensity may precede impulsive behaviors they regret later.
For individuals with ADHD, forming deep bonds with family, friends, and community can counteract feelings of isolation and boost self-esteem. Family Bonding: Engage in regular, meaningful activities with family members. Open communication and shared experiences help build trust and emotional support.
The ADHD "2-Minute Rule" suggests doing any task taking under two minutes immediately to build momentum, but it often backfires by derailing focus due to weak working memory, time blindness, and transition difficulties in people with ADHD. A better approach is to write down these quick tasks on a separate "catch-all" list instead of interrupting your main work, then schedule specific times to review and tackle them, or use a slightly longer timeframe like a 5-minute rule to prevent getting lost down "rabbit holes".
The five gifts of ADHD include creativity, emotional sensitivity, exuberance, interpersonal empathy, and being nature-smart (The Gift of Adult ADD, 2008).
The ADHD "30% Rule" is a guideline suggesting that executive functions (like self-regulation, planning, and emotional control) in people with ADHD develop about 30% slower than in neurotypical individuals, meaning a 10-year-old might function more like a 7-year-old in these areas, requiring adjusted expectations for maturity, task management, and behavior. It's a tool for caregivers and adults with ADHD to set realistic goals, not a strict scientific law, helping to reduce frustration by matching demands to the person's actual developmental level (executive age) rather than just their chronological age.
We found that a significant proportion of ADHD patients suffered from NPD, and that both narcissistic grandiosity and vulnerability were associated with ADHD hyperactivity and impulsivity symptoms, but not with inattentive symptoms.
If you have ADHD, your emotions might feel like they're all or nothing. You might try masking your ADHD and holding back your feelings to fit in and steer clear of conflict. But when you do let yourself feel, even small things can trigger overwhelming emotions.
ADHD can create challenges, including some pet peeves that can make life harder for neurodivergent people. Slow walkers can be frustrating for people with ADHD, so try to move aside to let them pass. Avoid giving unsolicited advice to ADHDers, as they've likely already heard your suggestion.
Many people with ADHD describe feeling emotions at maximum volume. Small disappointments might trigger intense sadness. Minor inconveniences could spark significant frustration. Even positive emotions can feel overwhelming, leading to oversharing or impulsive decisions made in moments of excitement.
ADHD and shame often go hand in hand. This is partially because many ADHD symptoms — like being forgetful or frequently interrupting conversations — put people with ADHD at a higher risk of being judged by others.
The 24-hour rule for ADHD is a self-regulation strategy to combat impulsivity by creating a mandatory waiting period (often a full day) before reacting to emotionally charged situations or making significant decisions, allowing time for reflection and reducing regretful snap judgments, especially for things like impulse purchases or arguments. It's a pause button that gives the brain space to process, move from impulse to intention, and evaluate choices more logically, helping manage ADHD's impact on emotional regulation and decision-making.
People with ADHD may cry more easily due to intense emotions and emotional lability. The decreased ability to manage emotions can result in frequent emotional outbursts or tears in response to emotional stimuli.
This can result in tantrum-like behaviour that some compare to a metaphorical volcanic eruption. Symptoms of an ADHD meltdown include: Physical reactions like feet stomping, clenching fists, or throwing objects. Making loud noises including yelling and screaming.
Dopamine deficiency: Individuals with ADHD are dopamine deficient, and arguing can provide a sense of stimulation and adrenaline. Engaging in a heated debate can feel invigorating and intoxicating.
ADHD symptoms in adulthood greatly interfere with daily functioning, and are associated with high number of psychiatric comorbidities3 Among them, borderline personality disorder (BPD) in particular is encountered far more often than expected by chance in adults with ADHD.
For while people with ADHD can indeed be untruthful, manipulative, and intentionally misleading, various processing issues can often be at the heart of their com- munication problems instead.
Increase stress relief by exercising outdoors—people with ADHD often benefit from sunshine and green surroundings. Try relaxing forms of exercise, such as mindful walking, yoga, or tai chi. In addition to relieving stress, they can teach you to better control your attention and impulses.
The 5 C's of ADHD, developed by psychologist Dr. Sharon Saline, is a framework for parents and individuals to manage ADHD challenges, focusing on Self-Control, Compassion, Collaboration, Consistency, and Celebration. This approach builds skills for better emotional regulation (Self-Control), empathy (Compassion), working together (Collaboration), establishing routines (Consistency), and recognizing progress (Celebration) to foster a supportive environment and reduce stress.
In ADHD brains, dopamine levels can be lower, making your brain crave stimulation. That's why you tend to seek out new experiences, ideas, or activities. When something novel grabs your attention, it lights up the dopamine system, giving you that much-needed boost of motivation and reward.
Dislikes or avoids activities that require paying attention for more than one or two minutes. Loses interest and starts doing something else after engaging in an activity for a few moments. Talks a lot more and makes more noise than other children of the same age. Climbs on things when instructed not to do so.
Other 'Super Powers'
Other characteristics sometimes attributed to individuals with ADHD include being super-intuitive and possessing a highly creative mind. While Dr. Pritchard agrees that these are common ideas, she says they are true only for some patients, and not all.