Yes, INFJs are incredibly loyal, especially to a crush, often becoming deeply invested, thinking about them constantly, and seeking profound connection, but this loyalty is conditional on genuine effort and mutual respect; if betrayed or feeling used, their loyalty can shift to self-preservation, leading to a sudden, permanent withdrawal (the "INFJ door slam"). They value deep, authentic bonds and expect loyalty in return, but their intense internal world can sometimes lead to idealizing their crush or acting aloof to manage overwhelming feelings.
The INFJ also thinks about their crush constantly. If they do know them in real life, they want to be around them as much as they can (unless they're really shy, in which case they'll probably avoid them as much as they can). They might also try to talk to them, chat with them, or text them often.
Once they do find genuine friendships, INFJs make loyal, caring companions. At times they may even be surprised by the fierceness of the loyalty and devotion that they feel toward their friends. Ultimately, the only way to be counted among INFJs' true friends is to be authentic, honest, and real.
INFJs are attracted to depth, authenticity, and connection, seeking partners who are kind, empathetic, intelligent, and passionate, with whom they can have deep, meaningful conversations about life, ideas, and human nature, valuing integrity, shared values, and emotional vulnerability over superficial traits. They appreciate partners who are self-aware, value growth, and reciprocate their intense, loyal affection, often finding intellectual matches in intuitive types like ENTPs or ENFPs but ultimately connecting with individuals who respect their inner world and need for understanding.
If the INFJ understands attraction then he/she may use banter and sarcasm to tease you. Then if it is well received, it will escalate. If it is not well received, for example in the instance of an unhealthy person, they will take offense of it and be put off.
For example, I could go out of my way to be there for you if you need help or support. If I like you, I tend to be close to you. INFJ like to be physically close with the people they like. If you notice they like to be close to you or make eye contact with you, that's a good sign they like you.
What melts an INFJ's heart? An overload cuteness of babies and animals. A genuine, kind-hearted and loving soul.
INFJ personalities care about integrity, and they tend to bristle when people try to change them or talk them into something that they don't believe. As a result, they gravitate toward partners who appreciate them as they are.
Yes, we INFJs usually know when someone likes us. But we're often in denial about it. INFJs tend to be really good at reading people and their emotions. This means we're usually very aware when someone likes someone else.
INFJ Compatibility
MTBI personality types most compatible with INFJ are ENTP and ENFP. Personality types least compatible with an INFJ are ISTP and ESTP.
ISFJs are practical and meticulous, yet deeply guided by personal values and empathy. They are often behind-the-scenes supporters—observing, anticipating needs, and acting with thoughtfulness and integrity. Though reserved, their actions speak volumes about their commitment and loyalty.
Jesus' ministry was steeped in compassion. He wept at Lazarus' tomb (John 11:35), he touched lepers when no one else would (Matthew 8:3), and he welcomed children when others dismissed them (Mark 10:14). His actions embodied the INFJ's instinct to prioritize people's emotional and spiritual well-being.
If INFJs like you, they likely will: Be always on your radar. Actively listen. Talk to you frequently and find small ways to keep the conversation going.
But it does provide some rough guidelines as to how soon may be too soon to make long-term commitments and how long may be too long to stick with a relationship. Each of the three numbers—three, six, and nine—stands for the month that a different common stage of a relationship tends to end.
INFJ Weaknesses
Reluctant to Open Up – INFJ personalities value honesty and authenticity, but they're also private. They may find it difficult to open up and be vulnerable about their struggles, not wanting to burden someone else with their issues.
What Are Some Not-So-Obvious Signs an INFJ Likes You?
INFJ's don't like being center of attention. Sometimes we can be, but it is very rare. That said, Fe is not about helping others, or giving hugs. It is how information is expressed.
"Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFJ's natural partner is the ENTP, or the ENFP. INFJ's dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best matched with a personality type that is dominated by Extraverted Intuition."
Kindness. Spark. Be a good person. Show them what you are passionate about, share that with them.
INFJ-INTP Relationships & Compatibility: Part I. Sometimes dubbed “the golden pair,” many have noted the potential for great compatibility and camaraderie in INTP-INFJ relationships. In this series of posts, we will explore some of the dynamics, challenges, and rewards of INFJ-INTP relationships.
In my experience, INFJs are what I would call selectively submissive. They don't submit to everyone they talk to, instead they choose who to show their submissive side to, otherwise they're usually too caught up in their head to be as focused on power dynamics as some other types.
The 12 Dark Sides of an INFJ: To Know Them is to Handle Them
Quality time and words of affirmation are the most typical INFJ love languages, followed closely by physical touch. Understanding INFJ love language requires getting to know them and taking an interest in their hobbies to form a meaningful connection with them.
Show them that you care.
Show them that you care through your actions or written notes. We don't like to be vulnerable in front of others, so it may seem like we are unappreciative. Trust me — your INFJ appreciates and notices every little thing you do for them.